The night of my last drink began with a sigh, and ended with handcuffs. After an eventful seven year run – from 17 to 24 years old – the last chapter of my life as a young, practicing alcoholic amounted to more of a resigned, slow exhale than an impassioned death wail.
After two and a half years of debt in the wake of my first arrest and conviction for drunk driving, I had finally paid everything off. My car had been totaled, my insurance company had dumped me; I’d faced court, AA, MADD, drunk driving school, had my drivers licensed suspended, gone to jail, and even watched an autopsy – but it was all over. My credit cards were officially zeroed out, and I didn’t owe anything to anyone. But for the remaining 6 months of my probation, I was finally free. I was ecstatic, and I decided to celebrate.
Despite the significance of the occasion, I gave surprisingly little thought to where I would go, and in the end opted for a bar that I had passed many times, but had never gone to before. Looking back, the night was positively uninspiring. I remember very little of significance from the beginning of the night aside from one detail in particular.
I only ever experimented with smoking. It really wasn’t my thing. It makes your clothes smell, your hair smell, it hurts your eyes, and it makes hangovers that much more toxic the next morning. Yet strangely, I did smoke when I drank.
I remember being outside, smoking a cigarette and looking up at the moon. Not in a profound philosophical way, but with a sense of deep melancholy. The moon seemed so isolated and lonely, and I suddenly thought: “Is this all there is?”
No epiphany came. No sense of renewed purpose in life, or clear direction going forward. No realisation of my defects of character, or the danger I was to society. Just my own sad, inebriated loneliness, out on a street corner just before closing time. So I left.
I had no plans for how to get home safely. I rarely did. On the occasions where I tried to plan ahead I always ended up driving drunk anyway, much to my shame and regret the following morning. Somewhere along the line I stopped even contemplating it anymore. So I got in my car and headed up the empty road.
Four traffic lights later I saw the police lights in my rear-view mirror and diligently pulled over. No thought of panic or fear. No recognition that I was drunk behind the wheel of a car. No memory that I was still on probation. Nothing.
The short police officer rapped on my window, and was soon met with the miasma of my alcohol-soaked breath, which sent him reeling noticeably. I smiled, carefree, and said good evening.
“Have you been drinking, sir?” He asked almost rhetorically.
“Yes, I have,” I nodded immediately, without any qualification.
The puzzled expression on his face should have been a clear indication of the trouble I was in, but I was never a difficult or belligerent drunk, just a reckless one. After a few drinks, I loved people and was always happy to tell them anything they wanted to know.
“How many drinks have you had, sir?” he stammered finally.
Making a contorted face while I thought, I finally shrugged.
“I can’t remember. I lost count,” I admitted casually.
“Would you step out of the car, please?” he said slowly.
“Sure!” I exclaimed happily.
For all I know I could have asked him how his night was going too. That’s the sort of thing I did when I drank. Social, talkative, agreeable, aiming to please. Were it not for my pension for driving under the influence, and the occasional habit of sobbing pathetically during sad songs, I was pretty entertaining to be around on a night out. Self-preservation was utterly absent from my mind, as always.
In the next few minutes, I utterly failed every sobriety test they threw at me. I couldn’t walk a straight line, I couldn’t touch my nose with my finger, and I couldn’t even write the alphabet.
It was that last one that hit me – hard. I made it to the letter C before I realised I couldn’t remember anything after that. Suddenly out of the blue, I was struck by the realisation of where I was, the condition I was in, and what I’d done – and it shattered me.
Despite all the promises I’d made to myself to maintain and moderate; without any second thoughts, I had gotten drunk and then drove, again. I was utterly terrified.
I slumped down on the curb, and started to sob. How did this happen? Why did this happen? I don’t understand! I completely lacked the vocabulary and comprehension to understand why, again and again, I found myself doing things I wouldn’t do sober. I wasn’t a bad guy, I just made really stupid decisions.
In an instant, all faith and trust I had in myself vanished, and I became gripped by fear. I knew I had to change, but I had absolutely no idea how to do it.
“Don’t forget to read me my rights,” I said quietly, “I know that’s an important bit.”
“I won’t forget that part, sir” the officer said shaking his head.
More tears streamed down my face.
“I can’t do this anymore,” I stuttered.
“No, you can’t,” he smiled kindly and put the handcuffs on me.
The next day was 30 July 1999. I haven’t had a drink since.